This quote has come up recently a few times. I said it in a group chat, responding to something that was said. They had no idea what it was, where it was from, what it meant… they had never heard it. It got me thinking. I have friends from all walks of life, all ranges of education. I’m not a snob just because I have a Master’s degree. I don’t think myself better than someone with just a high school diploma. Maybe more in debt, but not better.
But it frustrates me when I have to explain what words like “confound” mean, or where this quote comes from. Most of my friends, even if they don’t have fancy letters after their name, are well read, well versed in many different areas, and can hold conversations with each other without someone having to constantly explain something, unless it’s something obscure.
I’m going to say it, though – I’m attracted to intelligent men. One of the quickest way for me to lose attraction to a man is the realization that they could never keep up with me. That their world revolves around work, women, food, and video games. Please don’t mistake this, again, as being snobby. Mike has an Associate’s degree, and yes he plays video games. But he also reads, watches the news, takes an interest in the greater world around him. And I find that sexy in and of itself. I would never want to spend my whole life talking about TV or video games.
Some of the best times I’ve had with friends has been sharing – books, movies, music (especially music), art, interests. I love going to concerts – both rock and classical, sometimes the opera; I love going to museums, especially art museums and just wandering around and taking everything in. I like to know what’s going on in the world, and not just the US. I enjoy reading blogs that have something to teach me, something to open in my world. I just… I can’t abide by people that see no reason to better themselves.
I’ve managed to surround myself, for the most part, with incredibly intelligent, curious individuals. We challenge each other to grow, to get better, to test our limits. And yes, we’re currently drinking a lot over FaceTime right now.
In all seriousness, though, these are the people that are currently helping me keep my sanity. I’m not the kind of person that’s designed to be stuck in the house. Luckily, I’m still working and running errands and whatnot, but the stress of the whole COVID-19 situation is real, especially when you’re on the front lines and basic running of the business changes every day. I think I would be in a much darker place if it weren’t for my friends. Hell with it. These people might not be blood, but they are most definitely family. More so than most of my actual family.